Despite her age, women always have an active feeling of motherhood. When the children have already grown up and become their parents themselves, women's care will automatically switch to grandchildren. Who else will entertain, pamper and regret the baby, if not his own grandmother? But sometimes it is difficult for two mothers to find mutual understanding in matters of raising a child. From the height of unequal ages and depth of experience, the development of a child is seen in different ways. Sometimes there are serious differences. How to feed, dress, punish and speak with a child is a common circle of disputes between grandmothers and young mothers. The causes of conflict lie in the difference of methods and approaches.
Grandma's School
- Patience. With age, a woman tends to be more forgiving about childish shortcomings and pranks. She knows how to accept her grandchildren by any: whining and stubborn, naughty and evil. Abstain from physical execution. Grandmother is not too lazy to get up early and prepare apple pie for your beloved grandson or granddaughter, sit with your child at night when he had a bad dream. She has enough patience to read a fairy tale, make little cookies or build houses and pyramids.
- Attention. Unlike those who are busy with the work and problems of the parents, the grandmother will always have a free moment to listen to the stories of the grandson or granddaughter about childhood dreams, little successes or failures. Such an attitude develops confidence in the child. Therefore, children often seek help and advice from their grandmothers, not their parents.
- Experience. Grandmothers are more experienced and wiser, they can teach a child a lot. They know better than doctors what a child needs, they can explain the reason for his illness and help him cope with this with the help of traditional medicine.
- Another family model. The child often suffers from parental conflict or a father’s absence. If the grandmother is happily married, she can show the baby other family relationships. This moment is very important in raising a child.
Mom's upbringing
- Inexperienced care. At the birth of a child (especially the firstborn), young mothers try to muffle him, fearing of colds, are overfed, afraid to load with physical exertion, preferring intellectual work. With health problems, the mother usually turns to traditional medicine: antibiotics and other chemicals.
- New methods. Young mothers with problems with the behavior of the child often resort to physical punishment or seek help from psychologists. Neglecting grandmother's advice more often to speak with a naughty child in search of mutual understanding.
- Development. Young mother is always trying to give the child more than she received in childhood. And there is nothing wrong with that! From an early age gives it to specialized circles, schools for the full development of the baby. This decision is also due to the high employment of the mother, the lack of time for self-education.
Both approaches pursue creative goals. It is very important harmonious exchange of views. When raising a child together, the mother and grandmother must immediately identify and agree on the principles of raising the baby, settling all differences.
Text: Katerina Pchelnikova
