The marital bed for the majority is a symbol of a happy and strong marriage. Indeed, many simply can not imagine the ideal relationship without a strong hug before bedtime. After all, what could be nicer and more romantic than falling asleep in your arms with your loved one.
Still, sleep is a natural need of the body, which has its own conditions, very often contrary to comfortable coexistence under one blanket. So is it worth sacrificing healthy sleep? Should spouses sleep in the same bed? We will try to answer these questions in our article.
The decision to sleep separately comes not only to spouses who have lived for many years together, but also to quite young couples. They justify such an act by a number of reasons that, both positively and negatively affect marriage and relationships.
The main reasons for the separation of sleep:
- children,
- problems in sexual life,
- problems in marriage.
To prevent a couple from sleeping together can a newborn baby. As a rule, young mother wakes up more than once a night to feed the baby and therefore sleeps with the child, thus giving the spouse the opportunity to rest and sleep. Another possible reason for the separation of sleep - a quarrel. Very often, having cooled to each other, the partners do not see the need for joint sleep, preferring more comfortable and comfortable sleep alone.
Different sleep patterns can also prevent the husband and wife from sleeping together. So, in the morning the lark can wake an owl, while an owl will prevent him from sleeping at night. All this prevents a full sleep on which depends not only mental and physical health, but also family relationships.
The reasons for breeding spouses in different rooms can also include snoring one of the spouses, the struggle for a blanket, restless behavior in a dream.
Pluses sleep in separate beds
- allows you to take a fresh look at sex. So, if in everyday life you spend most of your time together, thanks to the separate sleep, your intimate life can refresh itself. According to the statements of some couples sleeping separately, they became more interested in sex and experience brighter sensations precisely after they began to sleep separately.
- allows you to sleep better and relax. Joint sleep adversely affects the health of spouses due to snoring, dragging blankets over themselves, tossing and turning and much more. But resting on your own bed you can fully sleep.
- fills the body with energy. Thanks to good sleep, health is improved, the body is charged with the necessary energy to perform household chores and work.
- provides people with personal space. As you know, some people cannot fully relax and unwind without having their own personal space.
- in terms of hygiene, its ardent supporters argue that the common bed is a place of enhanced microbial exchange. In addition, there is poor ventilation of linen, accumulation of too much carbon dioxide in the room.
As for the drawbacks of separate sleep, there are quite a lot of them. First of all, if the desire to sleep separately is too strong, then most likely this indicates the presence of quite serious problems in the relationship. It is worth noting that this way of avoiding the clarification of relationships will not lead to anything good, because the problems will not go anywhere themselves, but will only increase the alienation between the partners.
Cons of separate sleep
- less sex. In the marital bed you can not only sleep, but also spend time more interesting. Of course, expect a hectic sex life should not be if in order to have sex you need to leave your cozy bed, maybe even wake up your spouse and tell him about your desires. But spending more than eight hours in bed together greatly increases these chances.
- emotional cooling. Joint sleep is very important for emotional intimacy. Partners come closer to embrace each other and express their tenderness. In fact, emotionally close people can not sleep apart. Indeed, in this case, their unity will be broken.
Sleeping or not sleeping in the same bed depends on each individual couple. The main thing is that this decision was made unanimously and mutually by both partners. Some couples, observing all the rules and recommendations, sleep apart for a whole week, and spend nights together only on weekends.
But this does not mean that such tactics increase their sexual desire. Sometimes, on the contrary, every single day spent increases the alienation from each other. After all, if the day you spend not so much time together, then at night you have a great opportunity to communicate, show all your tenderness and attention.
